We go through many stops while raising our children, we try to implant fine values in their hearts in order to have children who hold themselves to high standards which help them live up to and arrive at true human sophistication.

In every stop we encounter resources that can inspire us, give us thoughts and teach us countless methods to achieve what we want in terms of educating our children and communicating refined values to them. Those multiple resources facilitate our search for any information we may need, one can simply press a button on the keyboard before him and receive incalculable amount of information on the values he wants to plant in his children's hearts. In addition to the availability of numerous other sources such as libraries, journals, newspapers, satellite channels and many more which are now made easily accessible to all.

All parents deeply love their children except for odd cases. However, when children or adolescents in particular are asked if they believe that their parents love them, you may hear shocking and unexpected answers , as a significantly large percentage of them are doubtful and unsure.  The percentage of those who are certain of their parent's love may be equal to those who are certain that their parents do not love them, or even hate them.

There is a missing link between the deep and genuine love held by parents towards their children and the methods they opt for to communicate this powerful emotion. Many reasons and multiple factors are associated with that. Among the most important is employing a child's need for love. Some parents, while holding good intent use their love for their children as a pressure instrument through which they encourage and motivate their children to achieve specific goals or avoid certain behaviors. For example; in order to encourage academic excellence, a parent will make a statement such as: I will love you more if you score high in your exams. To urge a child to be tidy parents may suggest: clean your room so I would love you. On the other hand, to teach a child to avoid bad words, parents may say: I will not love you if you speak these words again. To help a child build a solid personality a parent may tell a child at a moment of fragileness: I do not like those who cry for trivial reasons.

At times, children go through experiences or situations in which they are not successful. They could fail in a certain exam, in achieving high grades in a specific subject , in presenting a moving speech at their school's morning lineup; in winning an athletic contest or other.

Failure or unsuccessfulness is not being able to accomplish ones objectives in a specific area. It is important to realize that failure is not general; therefore, there is no unsuccessful child. However, there can be an unsuccessful experience, an unsuccessful conversation or an unsuccessful exam. The unsuccessful experiences that children go through are essential to develop and polish their skills, as each experience bears an important lesson, which is the reasons for failure, which can be a bridge towards success if the child fully understands them. Therefore, it is of most importance to recognize factors of failure to be able to overcome them, a child might need to practice more, pay closer attention to a specific detail , change his approach or other.

When we enter a garden filled with beautiful flowers and enjoy its beauty that invites happiness and joy to our hearts, we might admire a single rose for its beautiful scent, distinguished color or pure whiteness that brings peace to our soles.

We might pick this single rose from among all these flowers, nurture it and take care of it , But if we stop for a while and think " will the other flowers be adversely affected due to our preference or not" What will we conclude? Naturally, flowers do not sense that one is being preferred over the other, but how will our children feel when we practice favoritism? Either because of one's advanced academic stand or behavioral patterns or other reasons?

by: Fadheela Hammad

The two girls were best friends; they grew up together, got married and were blessed with children of similar age. Their fine relationship yielded a loving relationship between their children whom were deeply influenced by their mothers.

The children grew up; they had wonderful times together; studying and playing. But their friendship did not last; it was not as beautiful at the very least. Everyone around them was surprised. Is it possible! Is it possible for this innocent relationship to break apart, what could be the reason? Both mothers tried to understand the reasons behind their children's withdrawal from such cherished friendship. After long conversations between them and their respective children, the reasons were finally revealed, unexpectedly; both children had quite similar motives. Both stated that the reason for which they have withdrawn from that friendship was in fact; constant comparisons made by their mothers to encourage them to perform certain tasks.